A smiling woman wears a t-shirt that reads "resilient." Pink words say "Why you don't need to fear failure" over the top of the picture.

Why You Don’t Need to Fear Failure

The feeling my daughter hates (and me too!) when she doesn’t reach her goals is Shame. And this insidious sensation packs such a wallop of discomfort and pain that we will do just about anything to avoid feeling it. We avoid setting goals. We avoid making changes we know will benefit our health, relationships, or career. We talk ourselves out of plunking down money to get the help we know we need and actually desperately want.